As the world evolves and continuously changes, we are forced to adapt. This may be due to the latest technology, new leadership, climate changes, and the list goes on. Lately both Shawn and I have had to adapt to being in a regular relationship. While living in the same city is the greatest thing that could have happened to us, there are some aspects of our relationship that must change.
Up until this year, being together physically equaled a holiday for us both. We would get time off work and devote the 1-2 weeks we had available, to each other. We would go on a different, exciting date each day, exploring new places and catching the latest film at the cinema. We would sleep in, eat breakfast together, and have everyday free to fall more in love. Sound like a fairytale? It certainly felt like one. But then would come the hard yards. The weeks, sometimes months, spent apart were grueling. It felt as if time was at a stand still; the hours ticked by far too slowly and each day was almost like a waste without him with me. It was quite the contrast!
So now we’re at a happy medium. He’s here, just 15 minutes down the road and life is good. That part was very easy to adapt to. The difference is that now when we’re together, it’s not like it used to be. We aren’t on a constant holiday, we can’t go on a date every night, we can’t always sleep in, and we aren’t under the same roof. It’s different, it’s new, but it’s adaptable.
I now understand the importance of balance. Having a balanced life is essential. Keeping your work life, love life, uni/study life and hobbies at an equal level will save a lot of anxiety, trust me. I’m still working on this, and I still have a lot of adapting to do when it comes to multiple aspects of my life. But it’s important to know that it is achievable, it’s just a process.
Has anyone else been through the ‘long distance to same city’ change with their other half? Shoot me an email if you’d like to share your story! I love to hear of similar situations.
Hope everyone is having a great week!